Reference letters let families write a professional reference for their au pair. The au pair can accept the reference, share it via a public link, and download it as a PDF.

How references work

The reference process has three stages:

1. Draft — the family writes and saves a reference (can be edited)
2. Published — the family sends the reference to the au pair for review
3. Accepted or Declined — the au pair decides whether to accept it

This flow ensures both parties agree on the content before it can be shared.

Writing a reference (family)

Click Write reference to start. The form includes:

• Au pair — select which au pair the reference is for
• Period — start and end dates of the au pair's stay
• Strengths — what the au pair excelled at
• Experience — description of day-to-day responsibilities
• Recommendation — your recommendation for future families
• Additional notes — optional extra comments

You can save as a draft to finish later, or publish immediately to send it to the au pair.

Accepting a reference (au pair)

When a family publishes a reference, it appears under Pending acceptance in the au pair's view. You can read the full reference and choose to:

• Accept — the reference becomes final and can be shared
• Decline — if you disagree with the content

Sharing and exporting

After accepting a reference, au pairs can:

• Enable public link — generates a unique shareable URL that anyone can view
• Regenerate link — invalidate the current link and create a new one
• Download PDF — export as a professionally formatted A4 letter

The public reference page shows the full letter with the household name and reviewer, without requiring a login.

See also

• Export & Documents — Other export options (schedule, rules)
• Settings — Household management and members