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guide",null,[149],{"name":150,"to":151,"avatar":152},"Opairly Team","https:\u002F\u002Fopairly.nl",{"src":153},"\u002Ffavicon-96x96.png",{"label":155},"Tips",{"type":157,"value":158,"toc":429},"minimark",[159,168,183,189,194,202,205,209,212,220,223,233,237,240,274,277,285,289,292,301,304,308,311,386,394,398,401,414,418,426],[160,161,162,163,167],"p",{},"An ",[164,165,166],"strong",{},"au pair rematch"," means that an au pair moves to another host family. The current family may then look for a new au pair. It can become necessary when expectations, daily routines or living together do not work for everyone. Start by involving the agency and explaining what is happening.",[160,169,170,171,174,175,182],{},"This guide helps host families prepare for the conversations and practical transition. The residence rules below concern the Dutch ",[164,172,173],{},"au pair residence permit",". People with EU\u002FEEA or Swiss nationality follow a different residence route and do not need a residence permit. Do not automatically apply the au pair permit rules to them. See the ",[176,177,181],"a",{"href":178,"rel":179},"https:\u002F\u002Find.nl\u002Fen\u002Fresidence-permits\u002Feu-eea-or-swiss-citizens\u002Fstaying-in-the-netherlands-as-an-eu-eea-or-swiss-citizen",[180],"nofollow","IND's explanation for EU\u002FEEA and Swiss citizens",".",[160,184,185],{},[186,187,188],"em",{},"Sources checked on 22 September 2026.",[190,191,193],"h2",{"id":192},"can-an-au-pair-change-host-families-in-the-netherlands","Can an au pair change host families in the Netherlands?",[160,195,196,197,182],{},"Yes. Under the Dutch au pair residence permit, an au pair may move to another host family or change au pair agencies. The agency must notify the IND. The au pair and new family must continue to meet the requirements. The permit is valid for a maximum of one year and cannot be extended. A rematch therefore does not start a new au pair year. See the ",[176,198,201],{"href":199,"rel":200},"https:\u002F\u002Find.nl\u002Fen\u002Fresidence-permits\u002Fau-pair-and-exchange\u002Fresidence-permit-au-pair",[180],"IND's au pair residence permit requirements",[160,203,204],{},"Ask the agency to check the remaining permitted stay and necessary steps before planning a new placement. Being in the Netherlands already does not automatically mean a candidate can start with your family tomorrow.",[190,206,208],{"id":207},"_1-involve-the-agency-when-problems-emerge","1. Involve the agency when problems emerge",[160,210,211],{},"Do not wait until someone has a moving date. Describe the situation with concrete examples: agreed tasks, changes to the schedule or times when someone felt they lacked privacy. Include what you have already discussed and what the au pair has told you.",[160,213,214,215,182],{},"A recognised agency has a duty of care. This includes attention to the au pair's well-being, being available for questions and complaints, and taking appropriate action when abuse is suspected. See the ",[176,216,219],{"href":217,"rel":218},"https:\u002F\u002Find.nl\u002Fen\u002Fobligations-of-sponsor-and-recognised-sponsor",[180],"IND's explanation of recognised sponsors' obligations",[160,221,222],{},"Ask who your contact person will be, how each person can explain their situation separately and when you can expect the next response.",[160,224,225,228,229,182],{},[164,226,227],{},"Does anyone feel unsafe?"," Do not make a joint conversation a condition for getting help or leaving. Do not expect the au pair to stay or carry out tasks to cover a gap in childcare. Contact the agency for help arranging a safe next step. The ",[176,230,232],{"href":199,"rel":231},[180],"IND also lists its reporting point for au pair abuse and advises contacting the police in serious situations",[190,234,236],{"id":235},"_2-discuss-what-needs-to-change","2. Discuss what needs to change",[160,238,239],{},"If a conversation is safe and manageable for both sides, choose a quiet moment without the children present. Ask the agency to join if that would help. Use this agenda:",[241,242,243,250,256,262,268],"ul",{},[244,245,246,249],"li",{},[164,247,248],{},"What happened?"," Give a specific example without turning it into a judgement about someone's character.",[244,251,252,255],{},[164,253,254],{},"What had we agreed?"," Refer to your weekly schedule or house rules.",[244,257,258,261],{},[164,259,260],{},"How did each person experience it?"," Listen even when their explanation differs from your impression.",[244,263,264,267],{},[164,265,266],{},"What would need to change?"," Make it practical, such as a fixed finishing time or clearer instructions.",[244,269,270,273],{},[164,271,272],{},"Do we both want to continue?"," Only agree a date to review improvements if both sides want this.",[160,275,276],{},"“On two Tuesdays, the agreed finishing time slipped” is more useful than “you are never flexible”. Ask the au pair which expectations your family has not met, too.",[160,278,279,280,284],{},"You may want to revisit the ",[176,281,283],{"href":282},"\u002Fen\u002Fblog\u002Fau-pair-hour-regulations-netherlands\u002F","rules about hours and free time"," together. A conversation achieves little if the proposed solution is another unworkable schedule.",[190,286,288],{"id":287},"_3-make-the-decision-and-timing-clear","3. Make the decision and timing clear",[160,290,291],{},"If you decide to end the placement, record that with the agency. Write down the decision, outstanding questions and who will follow up by when. The au pair should not have to defend the decision to the children.",[160,293,294,295,300],{},"Do not assume every rematch has a two-week notice period. The ",[176,296,299],{"href":297,"rel":298},"https:\u002F\u002Find.nl\u002Fen\u002Fforms\u002F3088.pdf",[180],"IND's exchange brochure, chapter 12",", states that there is no statutory notice period for changing host families. Discuss the practical arrangements and contract terms that apply to your situation with the agency. An agreed transition period should never be used to keep someone in an unsafe situation.",[160,302,303],{},"As parents, arrange your own temporary childcare. Finding a new match does not guarantee that the placements will fit together without a gap.",[190,305,307],{"id":306},"_4-put-the-transition-arrangements-on-one-page","4. Put the transition arrangements on one page",[160,309,310],{},"Work through this overview with the agency and au pair. Mark anything that has not yet been agreed.",[312,313,314,327],"table",{},[315,316,317],"thead",{},[318,319,320,324],"tr",{},[321,322,323],"th",{},"Topic",[321,325,326],{},"What should you agree?",[328,329,330,339,347,355,363,371,379],"tbody",{},[318,331,332,336],{},[333,334,335],"td",{},"Accommodation",[333,337,338],{},"Where the au pair will stay before the move, from which date and who arranges it.",[318,340,341,344],{},[333,342,343],{},"Departure",[333,345,346],{},"The date, transport, luggage and a contact person who can be reached.",[318,348,349,352],{},[333,350,351],{},"Money",[333,353,354],{},"Outstanding pocket money, expenses, any agency fees and who checks each amount.",[318,356,357,360],{},[333,358,359],{},"Insurance",[333,361,362],{},"Who checks that cover continues through the transition and afterwards.",[318,364,365,368],{},[333,366,367],{},"Administration",[333,369,370],{},"Which notifications, address changes and documents are needed, and who handles them.",[318,372,373,376],{},[333,374,375],{},"Handover",[333,377,378],{},"Keys, borrowed items, personal belongings and access to shared accounts.",[318,380,381,383],{},[333,382,118],{},[333,384,385],{},"A calm, age-appropriate explanation and whether saying goodbye feels comfortable for everyone.",[160,387,388,389,393],{},"Ask for an itemised explanation of costs before agreeing to them. Separate the agency's bill, travel or accommodation costs, and money you still owe the au pair. The ",[176,390,392],{"href":199,"rel":391},[180],"IND conditions"," do not allow a contract that requires the au pair to pay a financial penalty for not fulfilling it. Do not charge the au pair a penalty for leaving. Ask the agency to explain outstanding payments and any proposed deductions separately.",[190,395,397],{"id":396},"_5-focus-on-everyday-life-in-your-next-match","5. Focus on everyday life in your next match",[160,399,400],{},"A rematch candidate deserves an open conversation. Ask what they are looking for in a new family and which arrangements did not work previously. An ended placement alone tells you little about how someone would fit into your household.",[160,402,403,404,408,409,413],{},"Discuss your actual week: school runs, tasks, free time, privacy and how you handle changes. Use ",[176,405,407],{"href":406},"\u002Fen\u002Fblog\u002Fsetting-up-house-rules-au-pair\u002F","house rules as a conversation guide"," and prepare a ",[176,410,412],{"href":411},"\u002Fen\u002Fblog\u002Fweekly-schedule-templates-au-pair\u002F","weekly schedule"," before settling expectations. Have the agency assess eligibility and arrange the administrative transition.",[190,415,417],{"id":416},"keep-making-room-to-discuss-agreements","Keep making room to discuss agreements",[160,419,420,421,425],{},"A regular conversation remains useful after a new placement starts. With ",[176,422,424],{"href":423},"\u002Fen\u002Fdocs\u002Ffeatures\u002Fcheck-ins\u002F","Opairly's weekly check-ins",", the au pair can share what went well, what could improve and what needs attention next week. Family members can respond with their own notes.",[160,427,428],{},"That gives you a way to revisit earlier agreements and discuss specific concerns. 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